let yourself be loved

June 15, 2006

Let yourself be loved this is what this goal should really be called because I seem to keep blocking people out of my life.

I am a nice person but when people get too close I drive them away. It’s a defense mechanism. Apparently I never say anything nice to people I really like. I meant to but I probably just kept it to myself.

With people I really like I open up my whole life to. I hide nothing but yet I feel they still don’t understand me.

Even when I feel something for someone I let my brain make the decision and I hold back my feelings for fear of rejection. They assume I don’t like them and move on.

I know I need to take a risk and take a leap of faith but maybe those people are not meant for me if they can’t even wait around long enough to understand me.

Tired

About two weeks ago in between exams I had really bad chest pains and my chest was tight too it was difficult to breathe properly and I felt faint.

Then I remembered I had not eaten for three days without noticing (I don’t have an eating disorder seriously) it was all the revising it just slipped my mind. I don’t know what it is but I am just never hungry enough to get up and go eat. I always just remember its something I have to do everyday like brushing my teeth.

I went to the GP (doctor) the next day (when the pain had gone it came back every time I laughed or made sudden movement). He examined me and said that he can not see anything wrong with me at that moment I must have been just stressed that if it comes back again I should get a blood test that I might be anemic.

Now I think I am anemic because I got the pain again and I read up on it and I truly show all the symptoms. I do get scared of having blood test its like looking for more than you want to find. I don’t want them to tell me that I have something bigger being anemic.

sleeping habits

Well this is an odd one I know but I sleep too much and when I wake I am tired and want to sleep again.
I sleep in the middle of the day too.
I have slept from 5pm to 5pm the next day before how weird is that.
This usually happens when am bored and depressed so I sleep more. I should really stop this.
I get tired pretty quickly but I think it’s a vicious cycle of me sleeping too much.

Where is the love?

May 15, 2006

People always say there are people out there who love you but I have never seen them.
Maybe it’s a cultural difference in display of affection like I keep telling myself.
See my whole family is African and well I would say I am too but because I only lived there for 8 years and in England for 12 years I think I have grown more accustomed to the English way. I can’t even remember much of Africa there’s so many things I try to forget that I think I have added even the good memories.

My point in all this is that I have never felt loved. Maybe my family does love me but they have never shown it.

I know God loves me. But sometimes you just want to be shown, you want to feel it, you want to hear it.

dealing with friends

May 10, 2006

I chose this target to remember to keep in contact with old friends to put more effort into new ones and to be there for current ones.
I am too insecure in this arena. I always think every time I leave the room they start talking about me. Girls can be bitchy (this is why I like guy friends better).
But I know what I should do is trust my friends to stand up for me in such catty situations and not worry that people are poisoning them against me.
If they are silly enough to believe whatever is being said they obviously aren’t good friends to begin with.

I am the talker in all my friendships but I find I listen well too. Sometimes they are quiet shocked when I mention something from previous conversations because they assume I wasn’t listening.

When I first meet people I am better at one to one rather than the group thing

finally flickred

February 12, 2006
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haven’t posted to flickr in a long time i finally did but i think this need to be an ungoing target i keep forgetting to. if i am serious about photography then i need to do this often. i posted to a group that critique your work and even though the response are good sometimes people can just be mean for no reason. i want my pictures commented on people telling me ways to improve not to be spiteful just cause they are pissed off at the world. so i will keep putting my pictures in this critique groups so i can get better with a lot of my photographic techniques. theres always going to be a few who spoil it for the rest.

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no more weave

a reminder to myself to never do weave again now i remember why i hate it so much my scalp is blazing. i hate weaves
why oh why?

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smile

February 4, 2006

Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You’ll get by…

If you smile
With your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just…

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just…

Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You’ll get by…

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news on my website

i have the domain name i am just waiting to be approved by my host then i’ll have everything up am so excited i cant wait.
my website is for me to get my head straight career wise i will put all the work i have done in my multimedia course that i am proud of. i am also including my photography. i am not sure where making this website will take me but i think this is a way of getting things into perspective and make clear to myself what i want to do when i graduate

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my theme tune

January 23, 2006

i think my theme tunes is Let’s Call the Whole Thing Off by
Harry Connick, Jr.

You say “either” and I say “either”
You say “neither” I say “neither”
“Either” “either”, “neither” “neither”
Let’s call the whole thing off
You say “potato,” I say “patattah”
You say “tomato”, I say “creole tomata”
Oh, let’s call the whole thing off
Oh, if we call the whole thing off
Then we must part and oh
If we ever part, that would break my heart
So, I say “ursta” you say “oyster”
I’m not gonna stop eatin’ urstas just cause you say oyster,
Oh, let’s call the whole thing off
Oh, I say “pajamas”, you say “pajamas”
Sugar, what’s the problem?
Oh, for we know we need each other so
We’d better call the calling off off
So let’s call it off, oh let’s call it off
Oh, let’s call it off, baby let’s call it off
Sugar why don’t we call it off,
I’m talking baby why call it off
Call it off¡­
Let’s call the whole thing off

i’ll see how this works for me but i say its my theme tune because am not great with words, i say things the way i like but people love correcting me. i am also very stubborn if i decide this is the way a word is said it is the way the word is said. for me this song is not just about words it also about the way i do and see things they are very different to others but i like it that way i wouldnt be me if i wasnt quirky

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sold my guitar

new guitar

i sold my classical guitar and bought a proper acoustic guitar that i can in the future plug into a amp. its black i love it and enjoy playing it

See more progress on: Learn to play the guitar

weave

January 15, 2006
weave

my hair has been relaxer free for 2-3 years now i have been doing afro twist all that time its time for a change in style but still no relaxer am just going to do a complete weave on to my whole head even though i hate extensions on me i need a change.

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volunteering to teach photography

January 2, 2006

i volunteer to teach photography at a homeless foundation teaching photography is fun and i learn something new everytime its definately worth doing.

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slowly but surely

i know am a girl who loves to take pictures, who wants to play an instruments. currently dabbling in guitar, piano, recorder(flute), and the harmonics. i can not play a single one. i love music, i write songs and poems sometimes. i love singing but can’t carry a tune. i like watching and playing football and its not something i pretended i like just to get along with my brother its just something i always thought i can do better than the actual players on the field. i can’t play to save my life its all mouth no action. i am an arsenal supporter. favourite tv show is friends. i love the colour red so much my laptop is a ferrari model. i don’t wear make up it feels uncomfortable. i am not a tomboy i grew out of that when my boobs went into the D cup. i don’t like flowers more for my allergy reasons than for the cliche of it. i am scared of all living things purely for their mind. i cant dance or perhaps i can am just to shy by all the people in the room. i have never had a long term relationship with a guy not even a relationship. i like to show affection i just fear rejection too much. part of my childhood traumas.i have a lot of guy friends but thats where it stops. i shy away from a relationship whenever its right in front of me i immediately turn it into friendship, i dont know why. i hate shopping for clothes i start to moan to my sis if where in a shop too long. i know something is missing in my life i wont know what it is until i find it. i believe in God am a christian and i don’t push my beliefs on other. i only talk if you ask me about him.
slowly but surely i am getting to know, love and respect myself. this is a new year that i shall make the most of. i will try to have as much fun and experience as i can this year

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i got myself a guitar tutor

November 30, 2005
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well i finally found someone to tutor me am sure he’ll be shocked to find that my guitar is a classical guitar and we definately need to start from the basic like what a chord is etc. see this is one of those times i wished i payed attention in music class at school. anyways he agreed to it though i dont think he knows what he is getting himself into. i hope he is not one of those impatient tutors. he has never thought before. am going on a bit but i just cant wait.

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